Our thoughts are often our worst enemy. They take us to an imaginary place, with an imaginary outcome, which we then start to live into, behave towards, then our actions and beliefs start to form based on our imagination.
An example maybe 'my knee hurts so I cannot run', but have we tried running at all? What if the pain is nothing to do with running or exercise? Maybe, rather than using an assumptive thought to influence our behaviour, we should try facts, allowing us to reflect on the situation and a more positive way forward?
Let this disruptive approach spill over into our relationships, and it is easy to see, why, when two people with the same thought process come together, things can quickly spiral out of hand.
As a great mentor once said - if the FBI haven't found anyone who can read people's minds yet, it is unlikely that we have married someone who can.
If you don’t like where you are, begin by looking at your results. Then look at the actions you took to achieve those results. Look yet another step backward to the emotions associated with those actions. Going further back, look at the thinking that created those emotions in the first place.