Nobody truly understands the brain. It is a hugely powerful, complex mass of magic and electric. More complicated than anything any of us can imagine, and what is more, it is more adaptable - and can change.
If we focus on the negative, that then gradually becomes the default, becoming a negative personality, gravitating to similar negative people, and creating a spiral of downward doubt.
On the flip side, we can take the same senses (vision, touch, taste, smell, hearing, sound) and interpret what we see in a completely different manner - a positive spin, uplifting and enthusiastic.
We frequently hear about sports teams 'on a roll' or 'in a slump' - maybe there is more to this than luck or just bad performance, maybe it is the interpretation of the thoughts which spread like a common cold (but not to the healthy ones).
A few key points to note (which are expanded on in the attached article) :
1. Your thoughts physically reshape your brain - it is an always changing mass, an incredible machine - and you are in control of the direction in which it serves you
2. The quickest thought responds first - also called 'reaction' the behaviour we have become to accept becomes a self fulfilling prophecy - be it helpful or not
3. Work on loving your environment - by embracing and finding the positive, your default state will change, positive thoughts lead to positive wiring which leads to more positive thoughts and so on
4. Mirroring is contagious - in the same way, if we see someone checking their phone, we feel compelled to do the same. Our behaviour and emotions are just the same - call it mob empathy (back in the 80's when football terraces all moved en masse towards the opposing supporters for example) what we see exhibited around us, we cannot help but exhibit. Unhealthy behaviour has been shown to increase stress, and ultimately, leading us to poor health, and effectively digging our own grave.
Even, if just being aware of these four areas, we can pause before picking up the shovel, step out of the pit, look for an alternate behaviour, we could stop wiring our brains to continue being destructive.
The hardest thing of all, other than the pause - reflect -act trilogy, is to remember to do it - and to find that millisecond of time from that most wonderful machine - the brain.
If you are mindful to the lessons of the failures, there is no reason that you can’t make the default of every day better than the one before it. Do something new everyday, learn its lesson, choose love over fear, and make every day better than the last. The more you do this, the more you will see and appreciate the beauty of this existence, and the happier you’ll be