It is so easy to pack children off to school, taking it all for granted. On the walk home, if you are lucky, you may find out what they had for lunch, maybe even the latest playground drama, but frequently very little (especially when the fancy dress reminder happens the next morning with 10 minutes notice).
So, what do they actually get up to? What is it they do? Once we understand this, maybe we can then be a little more forgiving when the classroom angel turns into a frenzied tornado once they get home.
Away from the confines and expectations of the classroom and need to conform, home is the safe haven, the place where they can feel at ease - even if that is somewhat different from how we perceive the ideal behaviour.
The attached article is a real eye opener as to what are children actually do each day - its impressive to say the very least!
Turning to ourselves, after a day of pressing the pause button between listening to co-workers apparent stupidity and responding in a far more professional manner, back at home, where it is unusual to be sacked, fired, or put on a warning, it is far easier to let fly with less than productive words.
Maybe both us and our children want the same thing after a day of controlling emotions - a snack, a snuggle, a story and an early bedtime.
She does incredible things every day. She meets and exceeds expectations. She makes choices. She acquires new information and skills. She practices her growing repertoire of knowledge and learns more about belonging to and interacting in group settings.