Recently we looked at this list of 15 things put together by John Rampton which may be holding you back from financial freedom. The list is :
- Living Above Your Means
- Lack Of Determination
- Neglecting your Health
- Purchasing a Home
- Relying on One Source Of Income
- Wasting Valuable Time
- Not Acting on Your Ideas
- Not Reading
- Fear and Negativity
- Not Setting Goals
- Avoiding Routine
- Not Collecting Assets
- Spending Time with Toxic People
- Failing to Follow to Allocate your finances (70/30 rule)
- Not Having A Mentor
Today we are going to look at the thirteenth, and arguably the most important - spending time with toxic people...
We all encounter these people on a regular basis - those who sap our energy, make us feel bad inside, anger us and cause our moods to change.
If it is just an encounter, then that is usually manageable, but if however we are surrounded by them day after day, or they play an integral part or influence upon our lives, no matter how strong we intend to be, gradually, those intentions are chipped away.
Behaviour breeds behaviour, so that when we surround ourselves with good people, we feel inspired to be more like them, to move towards their direction, to try to better ourselves. In a similar way, the same can be said for toxic people, gradually, we take on their values.
Dave Scarlet once said something which resonated deeply with me "if there is something in your life causing you angst, deal with it, or remove it". The same goes for toxic people - deal with them, or remove them.
When you see successful, uplifting people, usually, they do not surround themselves with horrible people. They manage to inspire others by being inspired themselves.
If you are struggling with negativity and toxic people in your life, here are a few things to do :
Figure out who it is who bring the most upset and toxicity to your life
Is it really necessary that they need to be part of it?
Remember, that most people resign from their boss not their job, so it is possible to change that. By sacking an employee who is toxic, you are releasing them to fulfil their potential elsewhere. People change friendship groups, charities you do a lot of work for have a range of people, so choose to dedicated yourself in another area. Relationships break down, and future relationships flourish.
How can you gently remove yourself from the upset?
Always remember to focus on the future, which will bring something better as you move towards an uplifting and positive environment.
Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people, and see how your outlook and motivation changes. Be the one who is inspired, not dragged into a pit of doom and gloom which takes you the whole day to climb out of.