I first met Dr James Rouse a couple of years ago. I was told to make sure I got to the front of the auditorium and to be as close to him as possible. Hearing from other Serenity financial life planners, I was told of the profound effect which his energy, enthusiasm and vigour had on them.
Aside from being a great speaker, incredibly fit, and full of energy, Dr James is unbelievably generous with his time. There is no ego attached, he goes about his day helping others, inspiring them, and encouraging enthusiasm. I had a great dialogue with him over the course of the conference, which meant so much to me, that a headline speaker would take the time to share his wisdom on a one to one basis.
In the attached video, James talks about dark days. This made me sit up suddenly, as he is probably the bounciest, happiest person I can imagine. Of course, behind what we show the world, there are frequently very different feelings. We have all heard of unhappy comedians for example.
James takes us through the realism that dark days are part of our lives and looks at 4 particular attributes :
1. Perfectionism - when no matter what we do is good enough. The answer - to realise that we are all students in life.
2. Not Enoughness - where we feel we should be better and we are winging it through life, waiting to be found out. James advocates focusing on just one thing, and doing that intentionally well.
3. The Human Doing - we all live busy lives, balancing commitments, obligations and duties. We are all consumed by 'doing' that we forget about 'being'. After all, we are Human Beings, so take some time to just be. Have some time for you.
4. Sadness - which sometimes just hits us. We wake up feeling just sad, then wallow in that without any real reason, maybe even beating ourselves up about it. Trying to be compassionate and present with the self is a great way to be kind to that most important person - you!
I hope that you find Dr James as uplifting an inspiration as we do at Serenity.
What I do when I am in a dark place-having dark days.